Intimate Partner Violence
If you are in immediate danger, CALL 911
NYS Domestic Violence Hotline
If you are a victim of intimate partner violence seeking information, resources and support, visit:
"Domestic Violence" and "Intimate Partner Violence" are terms that are often used interchangeably. Domestic Violence (DV) can be used to describe any abuse that occurs within the context of one's home or family. OASAS uses the more specific term Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) as defined by the New York State Office for the Prevention of Domestic Violence (OPDV):
Intimate Partner Violence is a pattern of coercive tactics, which can include physical, psychological, sexual, economic and emotional abuse, perpetrated by one person against an adult intimate partner, with the goal of establishing and maintaining power and control over the victim.
Intimate Partner includes persons legally married to one another; persons formerly married to one another; persons who have a child in common, regardless of whether such persons are married or have lived together at any time, couples who are in an "intimate relationship" including but not limited to couples who live together or have lived together, or persons who are dating or who have dated in the past, including same sex couples.
Intimate partner violence is not about out of control anger or behavior. Intimate partner violence is about power and control. Although there may be relationships in which intimate partners communicate in ways seem unhealthy, abusive and even violent, if there is not an imbalance of power and an effort by one partner to establish and maintain control over the other, it is not intimate partner violence.
Lesbian, Gay, Transgender and Queer (LGBTQ) IPV Resources:
- Intimate Partner Violence in Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender and Queer (LGBTQ) Relationships - OPDV information and resources. "LGBTQ victims of intimate partner violence experience tactics like those used in heterosexual relationships. They face additional risks because homophobia and transphobia add to abusersâ€™ weapons of control and appropriate services are often lacking." posted 6/2013
- Lesbian, Gay, Transgender, Bisexual, Queer (LGBTQ) Power and Control Wheel - Can be used to help identify common tactics and behaviors and recognize abuse in LGBT relationships.
- LGBTQ Domestic Violence Information Guide - OPDV publication that outlines characteristics unique to intimate partner violence in the LGBTQ community.
Tools that illustrate controlling vs. non-controlling relationships:
- Power and Control Wheel can be used to help identify common tactics used and recognize abuse
- Equality Wheel shows a model for non-controlling relationships
Additional IPV Resources:
- Child Welfare Information Gateway - Substance Abuse and Domestic Violence
Domestic Violence: Finding Safety & Support: Understanding the Problem (English version) - Comprehensive guide for survivors and helpers with up-to-date information about adult domestic violence, safety planning, and getting help from domestic violence services, the police, and the courts by the New York State Office for the Prevention of Domestic Violence. Also available in:
- Injury Center: Violence Prevention - Center for Disease Control (CDC)
- New York State Office for the Prevention of Domestic Violence (NYS OPDV)
- New York State Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NYSCADV)
- National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV)